3 Common Fears About Birth and How to Overcome Them

3 Common Fears About Birth and How to Overcome Them

Story telling is a powerful connection that has been passed down from generation to generation. Story telling is powerful in a good or bad way and we often hear stories of childbirth or have anxieties about them that we want to talk about today!

One of the most common fears surrounding childbirth is tearing during pushing

As you prepare to give birth, you ready everything you need, now you wonder how to prepare your body to go through labor in the easiest way possible. Tearing during pushing seems like a daunting thing to experience, but let's talk about it to help you alleviate some of those fears. Yes, often you can do things to help reduce your chances of tearing, sometimes though, it is inevitable and if that happens, there is a lot you can do to help with the healing process. 

How can you reduce your chances of tearing in labor? In labor, you will eventually come to stage two of labor, pushing, and it will be time to push your baby out. Pushing can be done as directed pushing or as mother lead pushing, and sometimes there ends up being a mix of the two. Left side-lying can be a great way to reduce tearing and it does not matter if you are doing directed pushing or mother lead pushing, the left side-lying position can be used. Slow pushing is another way to help reduce tearing. Both left side-lying and slow pushing help your tissue slowly stretch and reduces swelling to help reduce tearing. Talk to your provider about a warm compress during pushing!

Another common fear surrounding childbirth is giving birth in the car

While car births can happen, they are not as common as we might think! Here are some tips for avoiding a car birth. If this is your first baby, it is pretty rare to have your baby in the car. Consider not staying home too long, consider a Doula to help you know when to go and when to stay, and if you live far from the hospital (an hour or more) you can go a little early and walk in the hallway or outside before actually checking IN to the hospital. This enables you to progress and get into a good labor pattern without being checked in too early at the hospital!

Precipitous birth is a different story, it is rare, but it can happen. Precipitous birth happens in three hours or less, start to finish. If your labor begins, fast and furious, you will know by the immediate intensity of the contractions that things are going quickly. Call your Doula or your support team immediately to help you determine if things are going quickly and if you should head to your birth location sooner rather than later.

Next, we want to talk about the fear of your water breaking all over Target's floor completely unexpected

We can thank, TV shows and movies for this one! We often see and hear about a woman's water rupturing somewhere, rather inconvenient, like the grocery store and flooding ( and we mean this literally) their surroundings. About 15% of births start with their waters breaking, and even then it is usually a small trickle, rather than a giant gush. If you are already in labor and you are headed to the hospital or the mall to walk around, we do suggest bringing a towel, because now your chances of your water breaking are increased and we do not want you to mess up your car!

You are not alone in having questions or wondering what is normal when it comes to childbirth and parenting. There are often misconceptions and fears about how labor will start, what might happen in labor and what to expect. A great support team or a Childbirth Education Class or a Doula can help you prepare for all that may come and know how to handle things that do come your way!