I Didn't Plan to Attachment Parent

The truth is, I didn't plan to attachment parent. I didn't plan to have my child in my bed for close to two years, extended breast-feeding, baby wearing from day 5 on, and never leaving my child till they were almost 2... but it ended up working for us.

When we become parents, from the moment we announce our pregnancy, and sometimes even before, we are surrounded by opinions and ideas and thoughts on the *best* way to birth and parent. In the end you have to do what works for you and your baby. I am a planner, but in my pregnancy I was not as big of a planner as most of those around me expected me to be. I was a lot more laid back than I was told I would be, of course I secretly laughed, because I always knew I'd be like that. Attachment parenting is awesome, when it works. Because of how the weeks went following the birth of my daughter, we sort of just evolved into attachment parenting. Attachment parenting worked for us this time, but I cannot promise that we will do it with our next child. And that is okay.

I did have plans...

I did plan to babywear

I did plan to breastfeed for at least a year

I did plan to begin early communication with my baby and not allow crying

I didn't plan...

I didn't plan to have a baby and then a toddler in my bed

I didn't plan to nurse for 25+ months

I didn't plan to have my baby wrapped on me for the first 6 months of her life

I didn't plan to sometimes let me toddler cry

The list goes on, but that's how parenting is, you adapt. When I was pregnant I was not fully aquatinted with the term "attachment parenting". I am now, but when I became a mom I never planned to use one "method" over the other, it just so happens that attachment parenting is where we ended up.

Parenting is always unique to each family and even each baby. You don't have to breastfeed to be an attachment parent, you don't have to baby wear to be an attachment parent, I believe it has some flexibility.

I think if I had it to do over again I would change somethings, perhaps it would have been different if my baby had been different. She digs the attachment parenting stuff. Something I learned along the way is that good parenting is listening to your needs and your babies needs...regardless of which parenting "method" you have chosen to utilize. Good parenting is compromising, maybe you breastfeed, but the baby does not sleep in your bed. Good parenting is nurturing and loving your baby. Good parenting is also taking care of your needs so that you can best take care of your baby's needs.