Why Postpartum Support is Valuable

"Never underestimate the power of a listening ear."~ Tiffany S.

Yesterday, I had the pleasure of speaking at the March JustBirth monthly meeting about the postpartum transition. JustBirth Winchester is a non-profit dedicated to supporting the community on pregnancy and birth. There is a meeting every second Tuesday of the month with various topics and speakers, Julie always does a fantastic job brining important and valuable topics/speakers and discussion to the group.

I approached Julie late last year in the hopes of getting on the 2016 schedule to speak about postpartum, at Virginia is for Doulas, we love to focus on the postpartum transition because it is so important. As parents, those first few weeks are vital, how you emotionally and physically feel and process the transition to parenthood is important. Every parent makes their own choices that work for them, but one thing remains true regardless, we all need support. I'm talking about genuine support of listening, validating, and providing answers only to the questions asked.

Here is what I touched on:

  • Postpartum Planning (See our blog series here: Part 1, Part 2, Part 3) Easy access to support, food, systems, and additional emotional support.
  • Available postpartum support options: Postpartum Support Group, Postpartum Doulas, a good circle of friends
  • Adequate meals are important
  • Placenta Encapsulation
  • Bengkung Belly Binding
  • How Postpartum Depression is real
  • How Postpartum Depression looks different for different women
  • How everyones recovery can look and how it can look different and that is okay

Sometimes what you need is someone to come, not judge you, and help you get things done that you need done, how you need them done.

Sometimes what you need is someone to come to sit with you and drink tea , while they listen to your thoughts, concerns, fears, or questions and provide presence of support. "Never underestimate the power of a listening ear."

Sometimes what you need is someone to help you get ahead on the house so that you can really focus on recovery. Let your postpartum doula handle the laundry, dishes ,and dinner prep. Let your postpartum doula go and do the shopping so that you do not have to walk around the grocery store with a toddler and a newborn. Let your postpartum doula let you practice self-care. Self-care is hard, especially for moms, but if you know someone you can trust and feel comfortable with to work with you to ease the check list, your recovery will be that much better.

Sometimes what you need is someone who will give you a massage and validate your overwhelmed feelings, your happy and sad moments, your excitement over the latex baby gear you just got from Amazon, and to walk with you every step of this postpartum transition.

The postpartum transition is not always easy and breezy, you have to know that that is normal and okay. You never have to go it alone and that will make all the difference.